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How to deal with big changes in your life

Updated: Aug 24, 2020

It's one thing when you want to change your life; it's completely different when life decides to amend your life. Changes can be useful, but the unexpected anxiety around this change can cause you to stress, which can be hard.

Life is not static, and change is necessary for our growth. The question is, how can this change bring out the best in you.

Yes, there can be difficult times in our lives, but what are you going to do about it? The first thing you should do is accept that things change in life. You say -I want to be happy in my life, but things keep changing, why can't things stay the same. Life is not static; things change in life, and you can adapt to your life changes.

You will need to talk about your problem. Talking about the problem helps you define the problem enabling you to focus on a solution. Your feelings are important, and when you are going through a change in your life, you will have a range of emotions, excited, nervous, angry, anxious, confused, or sad. All of these feelings are normal when we experience changes in life. The concern is the length of time you struggle with your emotions and how you function at work, home or school, or in your relationships with others. Let's talk about these changes.

If you're hit with a significant change in your life, the first thing you must do is STOP and BREATHE.

I have spoken to many clients who have made it through good and not so good changes in their lives. But first, you must STOP and be your authentic self.

You may not know who that is at that moment, but you can start by writing out your thoughts about the changes. Breathe deeply and slowly as you write your thoughts, try to not to stress out about being stressed out.

The philosopher John Dewey "To be playful and serious at the same time is possible, and it defines the ideal mental condition." I had this quote scrolling across my office computer as a screen saver for twenty years. I wanted my students, parents, teachers, and other staff to

remember that all play is associated with intense thought activity and rapid intellectual growth. Playing allows people to be their authentic selves; play gives humor a chance to show up in your day and life. Humor is essential when you have a significant change in your life. What has

happened to you may not be fun; humor can help you create a space to see your changes in a different light. Play, humor, and seriousness is a way to help you make a plan for your future and accept your past. "If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh; otherwise, they'll kill you,"; said the author, Oscar Wilde. There is something positive and funny about

this significant change; let's find it. Be Well.

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